Christian Men’s Outreach

I think its one of the things that most Christian men fail at is true outreach to other men. Partly it’s biological and it can’t be argued that is part of this failure. Another part of this failure is that most men come from the mindset that if you don’t ( or didn’t) have a career or a college education you just aren’t like them. For many women adding a new woman to their group is no big deal. To most men that is simply not the case. For the men that are not included in these circles those other men often feel unwelcomed even at churches, they have gone to for decades. There are those ” other” men who practically beg for help to find a men’s bible study from leadership on down and they are simply ignored. You have situations in which a man is facing the toughest challenge in their life and mention that to other men ( including some in leadership) that they can’t go through this alone. ( with a couple of exceptions) Then sadly that is what that ” other” man faces. You have situations that those men are taken off the weekly e-mail list for no reason. Will these situations change? I suspect not. So those “other” men over time just give up and that is truly sad and disappointing.

The Knock on The Door That You Always Fear

The night was June 14th, 1982 at around 2: a.m. there was a knock on the front door. That can mean only one thing at that time in the morning that something has happened that all policeman’s families fear. My dad had been shot at work by some glue-sniffing, alcohol bomb-throwing thug. The ” shooting ” simply changed everything in ways none of us expected.

Thankfully my father did survive by about the width of a small hair. It sped up my parents divorce, it created a huge gap between my older brother and myself. I knew dad had to go back to work to face his fears while my brother thought he should simply retired. He did return to work for about another 3 years and then retired. His career lasted 27 years. The fear of losing him never stopped.

However, some good things did happen after the ” shooting”. A woman who my dad had dated in High School came by to see him. After my parent’s divorce, they spent the next 30 years together until his death in 2008. I still speak to her to this very day.

My mother on the other had met a wonderful man who became by a step-father. He was a man of honor and dignity until his death in 2018.

So through all the tragic things that can happen in your life something wonderful can happen.

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