Husbands # 1 Priority Her Safety

As a husband, we have many responsibilities but there is one that is number 1 and there is no dispute about that.

Your first priority is to make sure your spouse feels safe that can take many forms but her physical safety comes first. This is the woman that you spend your life with and in many times has fathered your children. So why wouldn’t want her to feel safe physically? If she doesn’t feel that then it’s your responsibility to make sure she does. If she does not then she has no chance of becoming the God-fearing woman who touches so many each day. After all, isn’t that what you want her to become anyway? She also has to feel safe enough that she knows she can come to you about anything without fear on any subject.

In my own marriage that now spans over 25 years, I started the practice way back then if she gives that ” we need to look talk ” I simply stop what I am doing. Now that doesn’t mean at times you wonder why something was so important. The key thing is for her it is and that’s all that matters!

So men when was the last time that you asked your spouse if she felt safe? I suspect not often.

Now ladies my position on this issue doesn’t give you the right to blast away at your husband over anything. You have a responsibility to in your relationship to your to be respectful of him also.

The Knock on The Door That You Always Fear

The night was June 14th, 1982 at around 2: a.m. there was a knock on the front door. That can mean only one thing at that time in the morning that something has happened that all policeman’s families fear. My dad had been shot at work by some glue-sniffing, alcohol bomb-throwing thug. The ” shooting ” simply changed everything in ways none of us expected.

Thankfully my father did survive by about the width of a small hair. It sped up my parents divorce, it created a huge gap between my older brother and myself. I knew dad had to go back to work to face his fears while my brother thought he should simply retired. He did return to work for about another 3 years and then retired. His career lasted 27 years. The fear of losing him never stopped.

However, some good things did happen after the ” shooting”. A woman who my dad had dated in High School came by to see him. After my parent’s divorce, they spent the next 30 years together until his death in 2008. I still speak to her to this very day.

My mother on the other had met a wonderful man who became by a step-father. He was a man of honor and dignity until his death in 2018.

So through all the tragic things that can happen in your life something wonderful can happen.

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